Surf Drama Surfing and Drama we all know that this is a big myth! We never have any drama in our tight-knit, supportive, got your back community we’ve built. Ok that was total bullshit just like your profile that says “No Drama” really?? You’re really delusional or your clock is permanently stuck on 4:20. If you don’t get the 4:20 reference your delusional. Come on embrace your drama, own it, you know you want to. Think about it; anyone that is partnered here in SL has drama. There is good drama! The moment your significant other proposes, winning a competition, waiting after you’ve voted 43 times in the same director election, whatever. (Insert SLSA drama here at the mention of the election) Anyway we shouldn’t all be saying we don’t get involved in drama. The other day when I was reading a few profiles, because that’s what I like to do, it seemed that everyone’s profile has the standard “No Drama”. Most of these people are drama wizards (I can’t think of a better name) they stir a dramatic pot rivaled by no others! Here’s the thing though it would be really boring without them. Now I’m not talking about hurt that may have been inflicted, that’s just wrong, but the general gossip that’s created by the inter workings of the SLSA alone is fascinating. Additionally some of these same people are major contributors to the SL surfing experience. The flip side to the negative drama experience is a short conversation I recently had with, lets just call her Bobbi, it was about nothing in particular and we’re not close buddies. In the course of the conversation she said something that was incredibly sweet and dramatic. Not about me or necessarily because it was me but it was what she was feeling for someone right at that time. That’s Drama! Its good! Its real! Without drama life would be void of passion, spice, flavor! You don’t have to let it consume you be your own drama master. Drama is the cayenne pepper of life. Just as in life add to taste and you’ll be fine. Remember you’re the chef If you enjoy this little blog post awesome if not let me know by IM in world we can create our own DRAMA! I look forward to hearing from you.
Friday, July 1, 2011
Surf Drama
Posted by Syx Toshi at 3:36 PM
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I avoid drama on SL by not talking to many people. Obviously it's not ideal, but I do avoid a lot of gossip and hearsay that way. Of course I have also been dubbed a 'virtual yeti', not a great title but I guess when this is backed up by a couple of grainy shakey photographs it's only to be expected. I have also been accused by a couple of folks in the SL surfing community as being an alt of yours Mr Toshi, which to be honest I find utterly amusing. But having said that, we are very rarely (if ever) seen as being online at the same time, so maybe there is someting to that rumor ...
In fact, considering that you are the only person that comments on my blog, and I am the only one that comments on yours ...hmmm. dodgy.
HaHa, Dee you never know...we've never been photographed together at least not that we know of ;)
I would love to hear everyone's take on Drama. Comment or IM me.
There's a difference between "bad" drama...the kind that drains your energy; and "good" drama... the kind that gets your blood pumping and your adrenaline boosted a lil' while you sit at your desk/bed/lounger by the pool. I don't like negative drama at ALL... the kind that hurts someone's feelings or makes someone feel small. I do, however, THRIVE on positive drama... knowing something's a'brewin'... someone is about to ask someone out for the first time here... or someone has a MAJOR, UNREQUITED CRUSH on someone and these little dramatic moments pop up between those people... Drama is WONDERFUL and FUN and EXCITING when it's not fueled by negativity. I think what everyone is saying in their profile is "I really don't like to associate with mean-spirited people". We've all seen them here. They seem to feed off creating discomfort and otherwise harshing incredible vibes created by the more positive crowd. I love you for bringing this up, Syx. This is just a quick rambling...but I think I may have to just re-post in a bit after I hash out what I'm really trying to say in my head. Until that's extracted (if it ever is...), there's my two cents. xoxo
Well, like you said Syx.. there's good drama and there's bad drama. The good drama is what makes our SL lives so enjoyable. It's what makes a family real and it's what makes a group or team, that much tighter. Without drama, all the good feelings, friendships, and Love could never spread so fast among such a widespread group of people. We learn about each other by reputation and gossip, sometimes long before we ever meet. And this CAN be a great thing, because it makes us think: "Hey, I want to get to know this person" ..and that leads to friendships and fun that could last.
But then on the other hand, you have the same type of gossip and reputation spreading, in a bad light. Some people just love to spread negativity about others.. many times, just to make themselves look better. This is the type of drama I avoid.. even if like Dee says, I have to avoid talking to people. And many of you know.. I've been off the radar for quite some time.. doing just that.
The problem with negativity or bad drama isn't when it permeates into a group of people, or even into a Team, but when it begins to permeate Organizations or Governing bodies, that should be safe from such things.. and you see it affect decision making and the ability to run a sanctioning group... that is when many people, who would be nothing but the best positive influence for the community, choose to draw the line and walk away. Are those people missing out on something? ..maybe, but you also have to remember that most of those people are disheartened because they had higher hopes for a greater good that they thought existed. Something that they thought couldn't be affected by negative Drama.. and they lost that hope.. so they lost a big part of the enjoyment they had as part of a Community, and especially if that group is a Governing body.
Anyway, Most people enjoy drama to an extent, but I have a feeling that even those who state "No Drama" in their profile, no matter what you may think about them and their gossiping, have been hurt at some point.. by somebody else spreading lies or negativity. So, best thing we could all do, for the good of the community, is to not judge, don't believe the hype, don't spread things you don't know to be true, and always.. always, just shut up and surf. peace.
Aahhhhh perfect timing with this post. FAKT just like to announce we did a very special DRAMA!NOW line. You can use to put the board in the water...or in someone's ... LOL.
IT IS A TERRIBLE ANIMAL ..THIS DRAMA!. it is not pepper, not salt, not enrichement and shit..there is not good drama. Drama is just a waste of time. Every second drama takes for sl (and that is rl time) is a waste. Remember what you are for in SL.. nobody came for drama. All came for have fun and feel good. R E M E M B E R ??? ;-)
And probably some people will hate me for this but: please let your frustration at home and or at least bring it to surf beaches! That is why they are called Surf Beach.. not Drama Beach.
Keep on rocking, keep on having fun, keep on making love naked on the beach ..but F*** DRAMA!
D°XX
Actually I haven't seen much drama in the SL surfing community, unless you count the "Kittens & Tigers" series. Even that can be only loosely classified as drama, being a succession of sexy dance numbers connected loosely by fluffy dialogue. (Which is OK, because... does anyone really watch those performances for the dialogue?? Heh heh.)
Maybe it's just because it's my first half-year with the SLSA, but I have yet to see any bad drama, as we're calling it. If there is any, though, we have a choice as to how to deal with it. As a SLurfer, one of my driving principles is that there's a difference between a perfectionist and someone striving for perfection--the former sees mistakes as opportunities for self-loathing, the latter sees them as opportunities for growth and learning. (I've had PLENTY of these opportunities, with the way I surf.) In an extension of this idea, bad drama is going to arise sometimes between people or among groups. How do we choose to deal with it? We can either shut down and hate each other because of these feelings, or see them as opportunities for reconciliation and growth. In fact, in RL I find that a good friendship doesn't become great until it's tested by drama or other bad feelings.
One of the things I noticed at my very first comp in February was how friendly and welcoming everyone--yes, everyone--was. I still notice this at comps and other events and it's one of the main things that keep me coming back.
Thanks, Syx, for the blog invitation! :)
Awesome Comments!! Keep'm Come'n
Thx for inspiration Syx: http://myavatarmind.blogspot.com/2011/07/drama.html
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